The Ties That Bind in a Marriage Part 2

Picking up where we left off with our last article, I will state again that the relationship of a parent and child must greatly change after the child is an adult and marries. But a husband and wife's relationship must not be broken according to our Creator and King.  “At last!” the man exclaimed.  “This one is bone from my bone, and flesh from my flesh!  She will be called ‘woman,’ because she was taken from ‘man.’”  This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.   “Have you not read that He who made them at the beginning ‘made them male and female,’  and said, ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’?  So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.” NKJV   This will upset some, but although parents should always be loved, respected and honored by their children, they no longer have the predominant place in the lives or priorities of their children.   “Honor your father and mother. Then you will live a long, full life in the land the Lord your God is giving you."  Parents should be the ones to help their adult children move into this new level of maturity.  It is one more lesson they must impart into their children.  Parents, lead the way and help them have a Godly marriage!   Husbands, you should always love, comfort and understand your wife.  She is a nourisher and should also be your best friend. For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up His life for her to make her holy and clean, washed by the cleansing of God’s Word.   Husbands, love your wives and never treat them harshly.   Keep in mind that the temporary parent/child relationship gives way to the permanent relationship of the husband and his wife.   Now I realize in some cultures it is customary to think of marriage as a joining of two families into one.  The husband represents his family of origin and the wife represents hers.  together they and all their relatives become part of one big happy family.   I must say, as common as this may be in some cultures; in the Kingdom of God it is incorrect and unconstitutional in the scriptures.  This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.  Although that verse speaks specifically of the husband leaving his family, it also includes the wife leaving her family.   So, how could a husband be united as one with his wife unless she also leaves her family?  One of the biggest conflicts in a marriage is when the husband has to compete with his wife's relatives or parents for priority of his relationship.  It also brings division and arguments when the wife sides with those family members over her husband or belittles him to her family.  The same is true for the wife whose husband isn't man enough to "cut his mother's apron strings" and put his wife before her.   ​Before coming into the knowledge of the Kingdom, I was religious but felt I was missing something concerning scripture.  I had heard of so many marriages failing, even my own.  It wasn't until I came into the knowledge of the Kingdom that I realized it wasn't about religious worship, but about reading, studying and obeying His Word.  Through that process, He will fill you with the Holy Spirit, our Governor.  By the way, you need the Holy Spirit to guide and lead you in your daily life, especially your marriage.  “If you love me, obey my commandments.  And I will ask the Father, and He will give you another Advocate, who will never leave you.  He is the Holy Spirit, who leads into all truth. The world cannot receive Him, because it isn’t looking for Him and doesn’t recognize Him. But you know Him, because He lives with you now and later will be in you."   There are many reasons why it is important that a married couple leave home physically and emotionally.  One reason is to give them the opportunity from the beginning of their marriage to cultivate their companionship and bond with each other without the interference of the parents and other family members.  Companionship is an essential part of all successful marriages.  Another reason is that when they enter into a covenant marriage, they are creating a new family, not add to an existing family.   Keep in mind, that the parent and child relationship is established by the birth of a child or through adoption, but the husband and wife relationship is established by a covenant and believe me, there is a difference.  Marriage is a covenant established by the Lord God and sealed by the Holy Spirit.  That covenant is sealed between the Lord God, the husband and the wife.  It is created to be both a spiritual, physical and emotional bonding.  It supersedes any blood ties here on earth.   ​Hold on to this thought:  In marriage, your spouse is more important than any other person on this earth.  That is the way the Lord God ordained it to be.  By the way, for those of us who have been married before, thank the Lord God for His forgiveness, His grace and mercy!  It is because of the Lord Jesus that we are forgiven and given another opportunity to make better choices and do it the Lord God's way!  We will continue this next time. Remember, your faith in His Word is your greatest asset in the Kingdom of God. Genesis 2:23   Matthew 19:4-6   Exodus 20:12   Ephesians 5:25-26 Colossians 3:19  John 14:15-17 All NLT unless noted. ~~W.R. and Arlene Luchie www.kingdomcitizens.org